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De ce este greu sa pui punct.

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Probabil ca punctul culminant al unei relatii este chiar cel final. Dar cand stii cand e momentul sa pui punct? Cand renunti la lupta? Cand accepti esecul relatiei? Cand decizi sa pui punct si s-o iei de la capat?

Cu siguranta numai in romanele de altadata oamenii mureau din dragoste, in viata de zi cu zi se scutura si merg mai departe. Mentalitatile si preconceptiile s-au adaptat societatii de consum in care traim, o societate care a devenit atat de permisiva incat aruncam oamenii la fel ca pe un produs expirat, un ambalaj gol sau o haina iesita din trend. Cateodata o facem si pentru simplul fapt ca nu mai avem loc in dulap si trebuie sa alegem ce pastram si ce aruncam.

Sa schimbi partenerii ca pe sosete sau sa iti pui pirostriile de 3 ori in cap nu mai reprezinta motiv de discriminare, dimpotriva, un barbat care schimba neveste si jongleaza cu amante e un smecher, iar femeia care “are curaj” si divorteaza e puternica si independenta, potrivit tiparului noului secol.

Dar apoi ne intrebam de ce ajungem din ce in ce mai mult sa umplem cabinetele de terapie!

De ce punem capat relatiilor? De ce divortam daca la un moment dat am spus da pana cand moartea ne va desparti? De ce nu mai facem eforturi sa reparam in loc sa cumparam alt produs nou?

Pentru ca ne permitem! Pentru ca noua cultura propavaduita si implementata sub toate formele de propaganda moderna (muzica, cinematografie, literatura, bloguri, campanii), ne determina sa gandim ca viata e scurta si trebuie s-o traim la maxim, si daca nu merge…”hai, ramai cu ma-ta”!!!

Si da, asa e! Viata se poate sfarsi oricand, doborat fiind de o caramida cazuta in cap de pe vreun bloc cu bulina. Si vrei sa traiesti viata la maxim asa cum suntem bombardati zilnic cu clipuri motivationale si speakeri care ne indeamna sa privim viata cu pozitivism. Dar in viata reala, deciziile sunt foarte greu de luat, si cu cat exista mai multi factori si paranteze in ecuatie, cu atat ne ia mai mult timp sa luam decizia corecta!

Da-i timpului timp!

Raspunsul e mereu in tine. E greu sa inveti sa intelegi vocea aia interioara care cateodata, desi striga la tine ca sergentul la cadeti, tu nu ii intelegi limbajul, oricat de tare si agresiv ar striga! Da-ti timp sa inveti limba, asa cum a-i acorda timp sa inveti o limba straina. Cel mai dificil este atunci cand incepi sa inveti, dar nu vrei sa auzi.  Esti setat pe ceea ce ar trebui sa vrei si nu vrei sa recunosti ceea ce vrei cu adevarat. Da-ti timp din nou! Fii sigur ca ceea ce crezi ca vrei este ceea ceea ce vrei cu adevarat! Nu poti sa stii daca iti place un fel de mancare pana nu il gusti. Da-ti timp, prepara-l si condimenteaza-l dupa gustul tau, si abia apoi decide-te daca iti place sau nu. Dar daca nici atunci nu iti place, nu are rost sa repeti reteta la nesfarsit, daca ai ingrediente sa faci si altceva!

Desi aproape toata viata mea s-a bazat pe celebrul dicton “totul se intampla cu un scop”, acuma incep sa imi dezvolt viziunile si sa imi dau seama ca nu e niciodata totul alb sau negru. Omul extremelor care eram odata incepe sa prinda un alt contur, odata cu schimbarile survenite in viata mea si imi dau seama ca uneori, da, exista peste 50 de nuante de gri. Si daca uneori ne raportam parerile la ceea ce se intampla unora si altora, judecand fara mila, barfind si condamnand, alte dati, constientizam involuntar ca totul e relativ!

Si ca sa va dau un exemplu clar…fiti sinceri si recunoasteti de cate ori nu gandim asa: daca Marieta e prietena noastra si si-a lasat barbatul dupa ce a aflat ca a inselat-o, o felicitam si o sustinem ca nu s-a lasat calcata in picioare si suntem alaturi de ea si o incurajam sa iasa la intalniri. Daca o “marieta” de la etajul 4 si-a parasit barbatul si se vede cu alti o barbati, e o curva si o proasta ca si-a lasat barbatul, chiar daca el mai calca stramba din cand in cand, pai cum? Toti fac la fel, doar e barbat si el! Dar ea trebuia sa inteleaga si sa-si vada de casa ei si eventual sa se prefaca in continuare ca totul e roz si frumos!

Vom privi mereu lucrurile din perspectiva care ne convine, dar uneori aceasta alegere se numeste negare a realitatii.

Un lucru e cert: nimic nu e sigur!

De aceea, devine tot mai greu sa pui punct; deocamdata eu pun punct si virgula pentru ca totul e relativ!

 

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I’m ALIVE!

Yes, I am alive!

Indeed, I am alive, maybe for the first time in life I really feel alive! It’s been a looong time since I’ve felt the need to write down my thoughts, but as I had stated in the first place, writing was my auto- therapy. Let’s say I haven’t felt the need for therapy for the past few months… like…since …last September, I think…

Maybe you wonder why! I’ll tell but not right away because so many thing have happened in my life that I don’t even know how to start. Remember my summertime? Well, I think you do, since it’s been my best viewed post 🙂 That gave me a lot of confidence, my great summertime and all the changes that came after that.

Ok, I’m not gonna push your patience: I became a singer! A payed one! A real one! Like in….people pay me to sing for them!! With real money, not monopoly money nor invisible money! People actually pay ME to sing for them! Hope the IRS doesn’t read this :)))))) ( dear IRS, I dream a lot, don’t take me serious) :))))

It all started with a desire! MY DESIRE! the desire to do what I want, to be in front of a public, expressing myself through music! So, after a marathon of WEEDS and Modern Family I started to take things very seriously! I began forming a REPERTOIRE, mostly of Romanian Folklore and Traditional music, two genres I had never thought to perform! But this was my rope, remember the rope from my previous posts? If not, get your ass reading! So I knew I could have a chance with traditional music because our Romanian Community here in France is enlarging every day, and of course we get married here, we baptize our children here, we celebrate our anniversaries here, and it’s our custom to have live singers for our celebrations and I may say that there is quite a demand. Practically I knocked at some doors… literally… where I knew they collaborate with singers.. After some unopened doors from the French side, I began knocking at Romanian doors… and guess what… it opened… and this is how everything began… with one open door at a Romanian restaurant… and my intuition told me to knock at the best door, so I went straight to THE top Romanian restaurant in Paris… and apparently I was exactly what they needed 🙂 MAKTUB! Right person in the right place at the right moment! When it’s written to happen, it will happen!

You will never guess what happened. The more I began discovering my traditional Romanian music, the more I fell in love with this genre of music, a music that I had never had the patience to understand, the capacity of penetrating beneath its simple yet powerful lyrics. I knew I have reached that age of understanding life in a different manner. Our folklore speaks about that simple and happy life! It speaks of love, of nature, of faith… of a life surrounded by family, sharing all that God has given you.

One thing led to another and private parties turned into public shows, public shows into live concerts, from restaurants to theaters and even big open air scenes like Festival of Europe where I had the honor to represent Romania last Sunday (may 22nd). Let me put it this way… I haven’t had an weekend off since the beginning of the year – my official launch was for the NYE party 🙂

I really can’t describe you my big start. It’s only the beginning and I realize I’ve climbed my rope so high that I can see a lot from above. There is a hell of a way until I will reach the top, but I will get some day! The most important thing is that I grabbed my rope…and, boy…I’m holding to it like my life would depend on it!

Yes, it’s hard, and yes, you gotta do great sacrifices…and YES, they will try to pull you down…every single day! And you might get “bullied” and you might get hit, but like my old friend Rocky Balboa said… “it doesn’t matter how hard you hit, but how hard you can get hit and still go on…” Here’s to you, Balboa!

But you learn to deal with everything, as long as you keep your faith and self confidence. Nourish yourself with the positive sides and don’t even pay attention to negativity! Close your eyes in front of the evil and it will disappear. Open your heart for all the Good to come to you and your hungry soul will receive the light. Then follow that light and share it with the rest of the world!

Create your own circle of happiness! And happiness will always come back!

TO BE CONTINUED